"I have never been able to find out precisely what feminism is. I only know that people call me a feminist whenever I express sentiments that differentiate me from a doormat,”
-Rebecca West
Last night I attended a program put into place by the Resident Assistance of my dorm building, on sex, love, relationships, and everything under the umbrella of the three. It was all about asking questions and receiving honest opinions on issues by people my own age. The program was refreshing to really hear what people thought, how they differed from my own standards, beliefs and out looks on love, sex, and relationships.
One reoccurring issue was cheating, the question was..."Is it worse when a woman cheats?"
"WHAT?! OF COURSE NOT" spoke my indignant mind.
"WHAT?! OF COURSE NOT" spoke my indignant mind.
My opinion is, "no it's not worse", and I figured every woman in that room would agree with me. Call it my naivete if you will, but I was wrong. To my surprise people did believe it to be worse, but why?
The reason behind it was because when a man hurts, he hurts bad.
And so?...women hurt too, we're just better at bouncing back because unfortunately women are more used to being cheated on then cheating [says the double standard].
Now, let it not be thought that I am condoning the action of cheating, because that is not my purpose. All I'm simply saying is why must double standards continue to arise? Why is it believed that because of my chromosomes I should be stigmatized to act a particular way, do a certain thing, or be thought of as less when my actions mirror that of a male.
Now once again, I'm not saying that I mirror a "stereotypical chauvinistic male persona" in relationships or anything like that [but if I was...who cares?] . However I just don't understand the double standards that society puts into play on a daily basis.
Now once again, I'm not saying that I mirror a "stereotypical chauvinistic male persona" in relationships or anything like that [but if I was...who cares?] . However I just don't understand the double standards that society puts into play on a daily basis.
If I choose cheat why can't it be thought of just as bad as when a man does it.
If I so choose to sleep around why can't men be thought in the same light as what I would be considered.
Why is it more surprising when you hear that a woman cheated then a man?
This list could go on forever, but I just don't have that much time. Chances are this is just one of those topics that will have to be revisited time and time again. But until then, I just ask for people to look beyond the gender, and think with your morals, not your genitals. Wrong is wrong no matter how you born.
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1 comment:
This reminds me of the double standard that when men have sex multiple times with numerous women, he generates a "cool guy" persona (in many cases but not all). But when woman have several sexual partners she is automatically labeled as a "slut".
Feminist must be celebrating over this concept (Did you note my sarcasm?).
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